Happy SuperBowl Sunday. Today is America’s day of over indulging. Trust me, I know from experience. But not anymore, I am on the path of minimalizing my life.
Minimalizing my life is not an easy one. There have been some personal struggles like selling my truck last weekend. But once the things are gone the struggle will be over. Last week as I was reading the book, Everything That Remains by Joshua Fields Milburn, I got to thinking about social media “friends”.
I have heard people say that they have “X” number of thousand friends on Facebook. It seems that people collect Facebook friends like a sales person collects business cards at a networking event. I looked at how many people I am “friends” with on Facebook. At the writing of this post I have 552. What the fuck? Who has 552 friends? I don’t know 552 people and I certainly wouldn’t know most of these 552 people if they came up to me and kicked me in the nuts. Who are you people? What have you done to benefit my life? Are you a real friend or just someone who wanted something from me and connected to me on social media?
Now, let’s face some reality here about those 552 people, I have connected with a lot of them because of business. I would probably know about 100 of them if they came up to me and kicked me in the…well you know.
Who are the other 442?
Loree is one (she is always #1), Don and Carrie make 3, Stephen and Vic -5, my Mom, Dad, Nieces, Nephews and other family, ok we are up to (let’s just say) 15. A few other friends who I connect with a few times a year and believe that they are real friends. Let’s just say I have 40 Facebook friends that I consider real friends. That means I have 512 virtual friends on Facebook. Again, what the fuck?
Dear 512 people, who the hell are you? What do you want from me? Why are you “stalking me”? I don’t really care who you voted for, what you had for dinner, where you are traveling to, or that your child just took its first steps (while I think it is cute). Your opinions, while they are sometimes entertaining, are just your opinions. They don’t and won’t change the world…my world.
As I write this I am making a statement about Facebook…Facebook is sucking the life out of everything. I have seen it ruin great friendships, change people and create hatred and animosity in our world. As a human being with a beating heart and what I think is, a sound mind, I can no longer stand the fighting and shit-slinging I see on social media.
I think that my friend Jeff Jewell said it best. “The landscape of Facebook has changed dramatically.” Jeff said, “it is like watching a bad crash in slow motion and you can’t take your eyes off it.”
Jeff, I totally agree. Facebook is a multi-car crash and changing our society into something that I can no longer recognize.
As I write this post I am thinking about how social media has changed my world. It is almost another job just to stay on top of what is going on and what people are doing.
OMG it is friggin exhausting!
Now that I have completely gotten off course of the subject. Let’s get back on track and ask, are you my real friend or a virtual friend? A friend to me is someone I would have over to my home. A person that I can share the joys and sorrows of life. Someone who doesn’t have an alternative agenda to the time we share. I know that I have about 5 or 6 real friends who have and always will have my back and I will always have theirs too.
As I close out this long post. Something I know about myself is that I have a compulsive personality. For me, life is black or white, there is no gray. I am not able to do something just part of the time. That being said, I have removed the Facebook app from my iPhone and installed FB Purity, a browser plug-in that allows me to filter out the shit I don’t want to see on Facebook. Because of this plug in, the drama “car crash” has stopped and I can enjoy reconnecting with “friends” when I have the time. As an alternative to Facebook, you can follow me on Twitter or connect with me professionally on LinkedIn. If you are a real friend, send me an email or pick up the phone and call me. My cell phone number hasn’t changed since 2003 plus you can always call me at the Infratactix office 866-238-7431 (shameless plug).
I truly believe that opinions are like assholes, everyone has one and I don’t want to or need to listen to yours on Facebook. For now, I am going to live my life with my real friends and without crazy Facebook distractions.
By the way, those 512 “Facebook friends” aren’t real friends and would never attend my funeral. Then again, I would be dead and I still wouldn’t care.
Enjoy the SuperBowl.
Until next time all the best,